When my husband was 10 years old he snuck a box of ding dongs out of the pantry and he ate the entire box in one sitting. As a result of his overindulgence he developed some physical symptoms that were not pleasant...vomiting, diarrhea and even boils on his skin. He was traumatized by this event and has not had a ding dong in 32 years. Not only can he not eat a ding dong but the mention of the word, or the sight of a box of ding dongs makes him nauseous and retraumatizes him as he remembers the original 'ding dong event'. In hind sight, maybe if he would have had 1 ding dong he could still enjoy the occasional ding dong today....maybe ~ who's to say.
I tell the story of the ding dongs not to illustrate that DH was at one point a gluttonous 10 year old with no self-control, but to say that when you have something crammed down your throat until it makes you sick...any future references to that "something" (be it food, DBT, CBT, a child molester's *body part*, or something else) will be retraumatizing.
That said, as an adult DH can avoid ding dongs for the rest of his life ~ but it seems as though I keep running into the trauma of DBT over and over again. Perhaps there are some concepts of DBT that may have proven helpful to me ~ had I not been forced to eat the entire book at one time. Again, who's to say since it did not happen that way, and as you know, we can't unring the bell.
Now that I know I am not the only one who feels this way about DBT/CBT therapy, I am even more mystified as to how these seemingly intelligent, educated therapists who trained for years and are board certified in psychotherapy...many have even earned the right to call themselves "doctors" cannot see it too and instead continue to cause further damage to this already emotionally volatile population. It both angers and saddens me.
DBT "Counselors" attend a "Support Group" where they meet regularly to support each other as they work with this 'very difficult population' ~ but what about "us" ~ where do we go to deal with the additional trauma of being forced to participate in something we find harmful, retraumatizing and worst case scenario fatal.
We need a support group too. We need to support each other as well deal with the "DBT trauma" and talk about our 'experiences' with the Stepford Marsha and the POD therapists. We need to know that there are other survivors out there who have felt the same way, experienced the same invalidating approaches by the trusted MHPs.
I need DBT Detox and a support group to deal with MY DBT experiences! DBT is not our "last chance" for survival and happiness! In fact, I did not even really think about suicide until my own Stepford Marsha started shoving DBT down my throat.
Survivors Against Buckets