tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4134631784318235978.post8488568660572947309..comments2023-04-12T08:13:04.539-06:00Comments on Good Enough: What would you do if it happened to you?Gracehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00432157510458184788noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4134631784318235978.post-21551918966354939252009-10-24T01:01:32.889-06:002009-10-24T01:01:32.889-06:00I think your welcome is your answer: You are good ...I think your welcome is your answer: You are good enough. I got past it all, but I did have to face it, had to accept that it happened, had to realize that it formed part of my personality that was not really going to be unformed because I could not undo what was done. I had to learn to like me just the way I am -- after all, if God loves me this way, I can love me, too. It helped a lot to talk about it because it *is* part of me. If people cannot accept that, then they do not need to be part of my world. I can let them go. I don't need their approval. I need my approval and God's approval. Who else truly matters in the approval department? Talking about it, though, helps in a very important way: you find out you are not alone. Many, many others have gone through the same thing, and learning from them how they cope and sharing how you cope can be very helpful. I never felt the need to try therapy. I was blessed with friends with similar experiences, a supportive husband, and kids who were bonded to each and to me and their father, so the support system was strong. I hope you will be able to find a support system because I think that makes a difference. God bless you, and good luck to you with your therapy and everything else.Elizabeth Mahlouhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00334700057953625321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4134631784318235978.post-43332231015815686672009-10-23T21:57:06.038-06:002009-10-23T21:57:06.038-06:00"It does not matter if I feel "emotional..."It does not matter if I feel "emotionally" prepared to deal with it. I was not emotionally prepared to see what I saw that night in my house, I was not emotionally, or physically, prepared for what happened to me as a child...but it all happened regardless of my ability to 'accept' it. It happened!"<br /><br />This is what some therapists will never truly understand. And what really gets me is that when 'people like us' talk about things in a manner that proves we are 'emotionally prepared' -- IT'S BECAUSE THEY HAVE TAUGHT US HOW TO RELY ON DISSOCIATION ALL OVER AGAIN. When I think about all the buckets that have been shoved in my face over the years, it makes me violent and hateful. I want to grab a bucket and start slamming really stupid therapists in the head with it. Repressive therapies breed hatred.Ethereal Highwayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01120557764517618673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4134631784318235978.post-88176693473370300862009-10-23T19:44:27.522-06:002009-10-23T19:44:27.522-06:00Grace,
I am deeply touched by this sharing of your...Grace,<br />I am deeply touched by this sharing of your experience. Thank you for referencing me here, as well. <br /><br />You are so genuine in your feelings that it shames me for all the times I didn't want to admit something about my past. I believe that hiding something cannot promote healing. My T told me not long after my diagnosis of DID that he wasn't sure how to direct my sessions, so he discussed my case with his therapist. Together, they came to the decision that I needed to talk and I needed someone to hear. So he has listened for nearly 5 years. There has been some Neurotherapy, some coping skills, some imaging therapy, but he has never pushed me to hide anything, ever. After reading your post now, I am very thankful to him for that.<br /><br />Society makes us hide who we are and how we are, but that doesn't make them right. Thank you so much for your courage in sharing all this, I have a new respect for who you have become.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com