tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4134631784318235978.post4092468182940479202..comments2023-04-12T08:13:04.539-06:00Comments on Good Enough: If nothing else works...a total refusal to see the facts will see us through...Gracehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00432157510458184788noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4134631784318235978.post-88202718374378943142009-10-24T23:33:31.890-06:002009-10-24T23:33:31.890-06:00"...and when it overwhelmed her I got the who..."...and when it overwhelmed her I got the whole 'can it' speech."<br /><br />I have news for The Bucket Brigade --<br /><br />WE WROTE THE 'CAN IT' SPEECH!! We wrote the m.f.'er off the rough draft that all the indifferent people around us modeled for us. We did it because we were small children with no one to listen to us and stay with us. The mothers left us when we cried and screamed because of the beatings, deprivation and rapes. OUR PAIN OVERWHELMED THEM. I wonder what they think it did to US?!! Fuck the bucket brigade. We don't have to live in buckets anymore. Honest grown ups put down the goddamn buckets and won't insist that they be loaded up and carried by people who are injured and in pain.Ethereal Highwayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01120557764517618673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4134631784318235978.post-89944409354142180702009-10-24T22:10:42.539-06:002009-10-24T22:10:42.539-06:00Lynn, funny, isn't it - I have been able to &...Lynn, funny, isn't it - I have been able to 'be here' for the 5 year old w/o using 'buckets' or 'boxes' - and Marsha and her followers can kiss my ass!<br /><br />Ivory, Your posts have inspired me lately. I hold the power of me! I make the decisions for me! I may seek 'guidance' but if that guidance is a clear road that I don't want to go down - then obviously not the path for me. <br /><br />eeabee, Yeah, I've never depended on anyone but myself but the 5 year old got too dependent on the therapist - and when it overwhelmed her I got the whole 'can it' speech. I did read about your T leaving...and I'm sorry. It's always hard on the younger parts.Gracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00432157510458184788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4134631784318235978.post-64571972488433825742009-10-24T21:26:00.872-06:002009-10-24T21:26:00.872-06:00Fancy that--no DBT talk and no SI-ing--funny what ...Fancy that--no DBT talk and no SI-ing--funny what not feeling invalidated can do for a person. The whole dependence thing is so tough because I do think learning to depend a little is important (for me it was a new thing) but then it's so easy for young parts to get confused. Mine are very confused now that my therapist is leaving.eeabeehttp://www.esworld.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4134631784318235978.post-82413388037253932112009-10-24T16:00:30.509-06:002009-10-24T16:00:30.509-06:00I hear what you mean about becoming dependent on y...I hear what you mean about becoming dependent on your T. I think, deep down they all want their clients dependent on them. That means they have power. I feel like a dog on a leash sometimes, even tho my T is pretty good. <br /><br />hang in there...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4134631784318235978.post-41792092407569119612009-10-24T15:29:55.400-06:002009-10-24T15:29:55.400-06:00I'm not surprised that you have not had SI urg...I'm not surprised that you have not had SI urges since getting away from your therapist's invalidating buckets and uber-stupid contracts. What really cracks me up about therapists who buy into Marsha'a oppressive bullshit, is that they are too dense and dishonest to see how it makes things worse and recreates a traumatizing environment. Then they wonder how a five year-old takes over? If I ever get another therapist, I'm gonna need to see an IQ test first.Ethereal Highwayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01120557764517618673noreply@blogger.com