tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4134631784318235978.post1428306028729715887..comments2023-04-12T08:13:04.539-06:00Comments on Good Enough: What are we waiting for? Won't anybody help us?Gracehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00432157510458184788noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4134631784318235978.post-27608384288582780002009-11-11T12:01:15.090-07:002009-11-11T12:01:15.090-07:00Ivory, I'm not doing DBT. I have stood up for...Ivory, I'm not doing DBT. I have stood up for myself with respect to DBT - and the therapist has told me that she won't do DBT unless my SI/SUI is out of control...and needs to be addressed. But it isn't right now. <br />I'm not going to kill myself (at least I have no intentions of doing it) the struggle now is this angry stubborn part of me that will not allow a connection with the therapist - because of all that happened. Even tho the rational part knows it wasn't that she tried to intentionally hurt me. I know that.. But it still sux! Because I can't figure out how to get ALL past it. <br />*SIGH*Gracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00432157510458184788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4134631784318235978.post-35156662387545718242009-11-09T22:15:27.146-07:002009-11-09T22:15:27.146-07:00Grace,
If someone would listen, what would you sa...Grace,<br /><br />If someone would listen, what would you say?<br /><br />What I hear so far is that you don't like DBT training. Maybe you should start there and not do it. You have that choice. Just because you have emotional problems and have gone to a therapist for help, doesn't mean you package and vapor-lock your feelings and choices at the door. You are paying your therapist to help, not dictate to you. You have the power to voice your choice for your course of therapy and if your T won't allow it than your T is ineffective for you, I'd find one who is more compatible for you. Stand up, Grace. Stand up for yourself and don't let anyone tell you what's best for you before they've asked you what you want.<br /><br />I could go off all night on this. It took me years to stand up and demand my opinion be considered as valid and I hate it when some one is told they haven't the mental capacity to have a voice. Stand up Grace, be counted. Your way out is not suicide, it is standing up and taking control of the direction of your life - even if the first step is finding a different type of therapy.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4134631784318235978.post-19514007169315326682009-11-09T22:07:16.038-07:002009-11-09T22:07:16.038-07:00I think we shut up when things get so bad that we ...I think we shut up when things get so bad that we can't risk taking on more abuse. <br /><br />I feel like that about brushing my teeth, too. Once in a while I will actually get hungry right before I go to bed, but I don't eat because I know I wouldn't have the energy to brush my teeth again.Ethereal Highwayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01120557764517618673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4134631784318235978.post-62091946425443817962009-11-09T22:04:18.500-07:002009-11-09T22:04:18.500-07:00yes...I've shut up now, though...Daddy and Mom...yes...I've shut up now, though...Daddy and Mommy would be very proud. I think I might throw up now (but then I'd have to brush my teeth again and I don't think I have the energy....)Gracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00432157510458184788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4134631784318235978.post-15461962261695704882009-11-09T21:56:28.977-07:002009-11-09T21:56:28.977-07:00Yeah, it is always sad to be abused for crying abo...Yeah, it is always sad to be abused for crying about being abused.Ethereal Highwayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01120557764517618673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4134631784318235978.post-87215476483034198192009-11-09T21:54:36.302-07:002009-11-09T21:54:36.302-07:00yeah...sad huh?yeah...sad huh?Gracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00432157510458184788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4134631784318235978.post-57299429577376009872009-11-09T21:50:43.618-07:002009-11-09T21:50:43.618-07:00I think there should be some kind of therapy progr...I think there should be some kind of therapy program to help people heal from DBT. I really do. It's so fucking cruel and shaming. IT IS ABUSE.Ethereal Highwayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01120557764517618673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4134631784318235978.post-25584924404202089692009-11-09T21:34:31.727-07:002009-11-09T21:34:31.727-07:00Defeated...that's really how it feels. Like I...Defeated...that's really how it feels. Like I keep screaming but no one can hear me. No one will because I only scream inside now.Gracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00432157510458184788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4134631784318235978.post-82216193229434321092009-11-09T21:32:06.566-07:002009-11-09T21:32:06.566-07:00I know I'm not crazy- I know how I feel about ...I know I'm not crazy- I know how I feel about DBT and how it made me feel. But I dont think bringing the email matters now. I feel so disconnected from her right now...I don't know how else to explain it. It's almost like she's a 'memory' somehow. Like she isn't even real now. <br />Sad...because I do think she used to help me (before the DBT BS) and I know she cares...but I'm afraid to let her back in now. I don't want to be hurt again. I think she 'meant' well - if that's fair - but that's what she said...maybe thought I was supposed to get the 'validation' part of therapy from her, and the cult would re-frame my maladaptive behavior patterns. I don't know. But I guess it worked! Because she must be bathed in relief that I'm not 'crying out' for her anymore. And I won't. I won't. <br />She can't hear me anymore-because I can't talk to her right now.Gracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00432157510458184788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4134631784318235978.post-57340805908321416502009-11-09T21:12:15.632-07:002009-11-09T21:12:15.632-07:00No, I didn't figure you would kid. Grace, can ...No, I didn't figure you would kid. Grace, can I just tell you that you are not crazy for the feelings you've been having about the DBT debacle? You're not. You're not crazy, you're HONEST and you're no longer willing to pretend that poison is good for you. Big difference. No wonder things got so bad. I think you should bring this direct quote to her attention because what it created for you is still in play. This makes it seem that she already knew what DBT would do and that she agreed with it and sent you anyway. Maybe this is what's going on inside you and if you bring her the quote and talk about it, it might help.Ethereal Highwayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01120557764517618673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4134631784318235978.post-67019755803479052872009-11-09T20:48:25.624-07:002009-11-09T20:48:25.624-07:00Nope - you know I would never ever kid about that....Nope - you know I would never ever kid about that. She said it when the Marsha Pod Person took over her body...I have no idea how that obese nun fit into such a tiny body - but she did morph into the therapists body and the quote from above is a real quote...Gracehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00432157510458184788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4134631784318235978.post-904787349221781822009-11-09T20:45:15.233-07:002009-11-09T20:45:15.233-07:00"Of course you are going to feel irritable af..."Of course you are going to feel irritable after DBT class as this class runs counter to what your emotional mind wants which is to be heard, understood and comforted, vs being told to modulate, distract, "pretend" to feel good, etc."<br /><br />This is what she said? You're kidding, right? Please tell me you're kidding.Ethereal Highwayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01120557764517618673noreply@blogger.com