tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4134631784318235978.post1177846233563106706..comments2023-04-12T08:13:04.539-06:00Comments on Good Enough: 6 Weeks? Tell me, Grace, What's your secret? Why that's easy!Gracehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00432157510458184788noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4134631784318235978.post-59202089577472090302009-11-17T16:43:22.642-07:002009-11-17T16:43:22.642-07:00It's sad when the cover-up from childhood has ...It's sad when the cover-up from childhood has to continue to keep from being hurt as an adult. And why again is it sometimes hard to tell the past from the 'present'? Duh.Ethereal Highwayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01120557764517618673noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4134631784318235978.post-74248638560010231522009-11-17T05:57:24.341-07:002009-11-17T05:57:24.341-07:00My T and I discussed this "phenomenon" j...My T and I discussed this "phenomenon" just yesterday evening. He said I'm coping so well with what's going on in my life. I tried to explain that I'm falling apart on the inside and I feel as if I can't hold it together anymore. I griped to him that he isn't "seeing" what's really going on, and it is hard to deal with when, inside, we are falling apart or stressed to the max, and because someone cannot "see" it, they assume we are just fine. I think this is the same thing that happens when someone encounters an abused child but cannot see bruises - they believe the child is fine because there is nothing to see. (if that makes sense) But something I learned yesterday was that controlling what people see on the outside, is a way of coping.<br /><br />Hang in there, Grace. Know that others are experiencing what you are - we are stronger in numbers.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4134631784318235978.post-13820976868174416352009-11-16T21:09:26.087-07:002009-11-16T21:09:26.087-07:00I definitely notice that some coping strategies in...I definitely notice that some coping strategies in the maladaptive category seem more significant to my therapist than others, though they really sort of all seem the same to me. Some are just messier looking than others. <br /><br />It doesn't feel so great to have people happy that you're hiding the pain more effectively. It's the pain that's the problem, not how it looks to others.eeabeehttp://www.esworld.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com